Brian Tyler Boydston

Last night I found out that a friend of mine killed himself after he was bullied for being gay. Brian Tyler Boydston and I started talking on Twitter, and eventually became friends off of just social networks. We would call and talk and text each other when we just wanted to chat.

With high college course load and social life we lost touch but still would send each other the occasional text or message.

Last night I found out that he killed himself after being bullied for being gay.

My thoughts go out to his friends and family.

It is horrible that there are people out there who would drive a person to such an act… People like Matt Lederer and Chris Mallgren need to be stopped! They suggest that gay people kill them self! Their words are hateful and evil. No one should ever feel the need to kill them self, let alone have people like Matt Lederer and Chris Mallgren telling them directly that they should commit suicide.

Please stop spreading hated! It is supposed to get better, but when people are telling you that you should kill yourself, how does it get better? These people need to be stopped!

Matt Lederer – Gay Suicide Advocate – ItGetsWorse

Matt Lederer is a textbook example of why gay teens are committing suicide…his actions are bullying and unprovoked. He has recently been lashing out against me on his Facebook account (Matt Lederer). I have never said a mean word about him. We were “friends” on Facebook and had communicated on various other social platforms up until the point where Matt Lederer suggested that I, an openly gay man, should jump off a bridge and kill myself after he was emailing my employer thus threatening my livelihood because of an issue with an issue regarding someone else who has also publicly and privately spread vile and hatred about me for MONTHS.

I just want to put this information out there to show others the real Matt Lederer. He is by others definition, not my own, a bully. His attacks are mean spirited, uncalled for, unprovoked, unwarranted, and hurtful.

So for everyone saying, “It gets better” as you get older and grow up, just know that there are bullies out there who will attack you for no good reason other than to feed their own ego.

Matt Lederer is one such person. “Some men aren’t looking for anything logical, like money. They can’t be bought, bullied, reasoned or negotiated with. Some men just want to watch the world burn.”

Update: It would seem as if Chris Mallgren also advocates gay people committing suicide. His actions and comments are hurtful, hateful, and a person who would dare suggest a person, gay or not, kill themselves has nothing but evil and hatred in them.

One Year Seattleversary

It was one year ago … this very minute that I checked into my new home in Seattle, Washington. I lived in San Francisco for 3 years, 7 months, 9 days after moving there on September 22, 2007.

I’m glad that I moved to Seattle, and have enjoyed my time here. I am now back working full time for a major internet company making more than I ever have, am busy nearly every night with events with friends, and even host a weekly party at my place where my friends and I get together for drinks and sometimes games. I even experienced snow for the first time in my life!

I also have a TON more space than any place I lived while in San Francisco, and for the first time since living in Florida have my own bathroom! … I even have my own home bar that I’ve started as a pet project that I’m really enjoying…and in the next day or so, it will even show up on Google Maps!

I am so thankful for all my friends and opportunities moving to a new city has afforded me. In moving here I planned to be here for 10 years, then hopefully back to San Francisco or who knows where… so here’s to one amazing year down… 9 more to go!